The last few times I blogged I shared how my husband was going through burnout and was on stress leave. How he quit his job in December and how I was in a situation trying to figure out where my husband went and who was this stranger that was living with me. .Its the weirdest thing to be experiencing. Its like a bad episode of the twilight zone or the body snatchers. The body snatchers was a show where aliens duplicated an identical person but the replica was devoid of any emotions. That's what this is like.
The man left here is a shell of the man I married. I married a man of integrity. My best friend, my confidante. The person who I could share anything with, who I could laugh with and work with. A man with an amazing sense of humor A man of talent and intelligence a man with a gentle heart but also was strong and stood up for his beliefs and his family. A man who followed God and loved HIM with a passion. Who loved his family and was romantic and sweet. Who would do anything for anyone no matter what the cost. A man who thought of others first. An amazing man who I LOVED so deeply, who I admired , respected and put up on a pedestal .
Sadly that Man is GONE! he left spiritually and emotionally in 2012. and in February of 2013 he physically moved out.
So here I am after almost 35 years of marriage, wondering what happened. I have no answers. He has no answers for me. I guess I can't expect him to answer because how would he know, its not my husband. Its some alien who has invaded his body. He is a stranger looking out into a world that is foreign to him. looking at people he doesn't recognize anymore.
When I married I believed it was for life. I had no doubt that we would be together forever! and now??? I don't know whats next! Do I have hope?I have hope in an everlasting God , who is FAITHFUL I trust in HIM! I trust that I will be ok no matter what happens.
I am so blessed to have the Friends and the family I have. People who support me and pray for me. People who won't judge me or our situation.
I am scared of the truth coming out, because I know some people will judge and not understand. Some will take this and run with it and gossip. Some might even question our faith.
The reason I am telling it is so that you will know the truth and it won't be just rumors and hear say. And as far as our faith, my faith in my GOD has grown even stronger. His love for me is poured out each and every day in so many ways.
This should not lessen the messages my husband shared because his messages never were that he was perfect but was always based on the word of the LORD. Which is the truth!
This is a place I never thought I would be, but I have learned so much. I know how much I can love! i know how much I can hurt! I know how strong I am ! I know how weak I am! I know how much I can do! I know how to ask for help! I know how to trust in God . I know how much I am loved by my family and friends. I know how much I am loved by my heavenly Father.
This wasn't Gods plan, or my plan, but God knew it would happen and he knows what the end result will be.
To quote one of my favorite songs I know not all HIS plans, but I know I'm in His hands.
Jer 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you says the Lord. Plans to prosper you and not to harm you. Plans to give you hope and a future.
And for me God said it I believe it and that settles it for me